With everything going on in the news dealing with discrimination and even racism, I felt inspired to share our story- That time we were discriminated against with kids. It’s not often I shed light to the negative on this blog. I’ve been on a mission to teach our kids the positive to any situation. But during recent events, my kids saw my emotions and I learned they are well aware of their surroundings.
I won’t get into the actual event but I will share that my family was racially profiled and racially discriminated 100% We were spoken to very rudely and yelled at. The hubs and I tried our best to keep calm and try to understand the situation in hopes of a misunderstanding. We were holding our kids by the hand. But after being lied to even while trying to understand the situation, we clearly knew this was not a misunderstanding but rather an act of discrimination. Based on our surroundings and being excluded as a family and being the ONLY minorities in the area I knew we were profiled and being racially discriminated. Even when asked why we were lied to and given bogus excuses.
When my daughter saw me tear up and her words were “Mama why are you crying? because that guy told us to get out” I knew then even at the young age of 4 she understood exactly what had just happened.
I quickly got into mama mode and asked for things to be explained and I wanted this done in front of my kids. Here are 5 things I made sure happened immediately after being discriminated against in-front of my kids.
5 things to do when being discriminated against with kids
1-Keep calm– Understand exactly what happened and clarify if you have any thought it may have been a misunderstanding.
2-Deal with the situation in-front of your kids. They grow up to have to deal with the same situations later.
3- Do not apologize for others actions even when you can’t get an apology from those who should be apologizing. Your kids will learn that they may have done something wrong if you apologize.
4-Explain the events to your kids and share your thoughts Especially when events are done in a public place and can’t be changed. (i.e. being kicked out of an event with no explanation)
5-Teach them it’s not ok how you were spoken to, treated, etc. Explain how things should have been instead.