I recently was told that the race/cultures of my children is only a big deal because i keep making it one!
I almost went off but i let this person finish their thought.
They went on to say that it shouldn’t matter what my kids are. That everyone should except them as the people they will become. That i am adding to the fire by creating names such as “blackxican” to identify them or separate them.
After they were done i was left speechless.
My thoughts quickly took over my mind and i began to argue within my thoughts.
The reason i make race and culture a big deal is because i want my children to know where they come from. The reason i classified them as blackxican is because that is what they are. The reason i started this blog was because i wanted to meet other biracial moms/ families and learn about their challenges while trying to raise mixed children.
I believe race was already an issue and i chose to educate rather than wait for my children to be questioned, picked on, and discriminated against for our decision to marry and have them.
You see way before they were even born we already knew we wanted to focus on our two cultures. We had already experienced the hate that still exist around interracial marriages and the “confused” children that we create. But we also knew that the hate that still existed could never hurt our family if we prepared for it.
We are proud of our cultures and hope our children can grow up just as proud of being part of two great cultures. We choose to look at the positive. Our children have the privileged to be part of two cultures. They have the ability to be bilingual. They have the ability to know two different worlds.
Whether they grow up and identify more with one than the other that will be their decision and i feel that as the parent it is my job to educate them the best i can.
So NO i don’t feel i am creating more of an issue by educating my kids about their race/cultures
But i do agree that my children should be accepted for who they are regardless of race, culture, color, gender, or how many toes or fingers they have or don’t have.
I feel that as long as i keep talking about it there won’t be an issue because it will seem like an everyday thing.
My kids are unique because they are ours and in the end that’s all that matters.
Happy Monday everyone!
I spoke too soon. I was admitted to ER last night and will be having surgery on Wednesday for gallstones. Keep me in your prayers for a speedy recovery. I will be back sooner than later!